I think what astounds me most is how valuable it’s been to simply have someone say “You have permission to feel this way”.
So much of depression is entrenched guilt for not feeling better. For feeling things that cause others discomfort, that require they pay you some kind of customized attention rather than the default.
My therapist wants me to feel better. Of course she does. She’s a good, compassionate person, and her Yelp reviews would probably be pretty lousy if things were otherwise. But for some reason, when she asks me about my feelings, I don’t perceive the unsaid “if you talk about it you’ll feel better, then we can all feel better” conclusion that I infer from most other interactions with the human race.
She looks at the clock, and she says “you have me, and my office, for 43 more minutes.” There’s no goal, no battle. So I put words to all of it. I give it all a name.The things that seem ugly or embarrassing or whiny, or things that, if I told my peers, they’d over-reverence on my behalf with well-meaning, bruising concern. The things that would break my mom’s heart, and for which she’d take mine to pieces in retaliation.
I say everything, and when I’m finished we still have time. It’s all there, in piles, exposed to the air and thoroughly seen. And there isn’t a protest, there isn’t a rebuttal. There isn’t confusion or regret or apologies or demands or aggressive proactivity or violent efforts to help. There’s just me, and air and quiet, and ten minutes left that are just for me.
being in a public restroom and hearing someone shitting really loud
being in a public restroom
being in a public
people adding things 2 my posts
IM LAUGHING SO HARD. I THREW MY PHONE SO I COULD BREATHE
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Guilermo Del Toro - How Pacific Rim saved his life
“I wanted to show that men and women can be friends without having a relationship,” says del Toro of the relationship between the two main characters Mako (played by Japanese actress Rinko Kikuchi) and Raleigh (“Sons of Anarchy” star Charlie Hunnam). “Theirs is a story about partnership, equality and a strong bond between partners. It’s important for little girls to know not every story has to be a love story and for boys to know that soldiers aren’t the only ones to triumph in war.”
Nice article, worth a read. (via nudityandnerdery)
OH FUCK YES
This movie is a lot more than just robots punching monsters.
Between Pacific Rim and Disney’s Frozen, it’s refreshing to see action stories with female leads that don’t all come down to getting that climactic kiss from the dude.
A creative industry shouldn’t be led by its own least common denominator of taste
"When one’s energy for discovery and appreciation — or creation — is funneled into too small a receptacle, it turns sour."
More on this wise old man’s truth bomb, and how fandom can be its own worst enemy.
—Amelia Garcia (via me-sexual)
You don’t “hate people”, you hate the circumstances that most individuals have allowed themselves to succumb to, the conditioning that’s ravaged their humanity. You don’t “hate the world”, you’ve simply come to understand various social norms that you allow your behavior to remain restricted to, unable to embrace your biological and psychological desires as a human being. Rather than acknowledge the self-destructive aspects of your beliefs and behavior, you justify them as to not be forced into realizing you do not live up to your own standards, thus remaining in a state of stagnancy and suffering.
To sustain a feeling of security, you deceive yourself into believing you are a victim and shut your eyes to embrace the beginning of your personal nightmare. You will now succumb to the very same circumstances of those you have grown to hate, until you build your very own personal denial where you will hide from the knowledge that you have become what you despise. You become a part of the machine that cultivates rejection for displays of awareness, and will now actively defend it before your very own humanity.